The Black mind

I met a guy on a taxi a couple of weeks ago. Usually we ignore these guys who talk too much, because they do so to seem  smart. But then after so long, only today I understand what he met. The black South African youth is discouraged. The Black mind is not used to its full potential We are laughed at when we dream big, people become impatient with us when it takes us long to comprehend something, we give up easily, and above everything else we care far too much about what our neighbours say. If you are older than 18 years of age and have baby brothers and sisters, wouldn't you like it if for once that they don't become part of the usual status quo. Like how black girls all fall pregnant at a young age? I am 23 years and I don't have a kid... But apparently I must've had an abortion before, or how all black boys are thugs? Oh don't sideline yourself Mr saggy pants, apparently your father butt kissed his white boss. You know what is funny about all this is how all these stereotypes are created by the black community. Can't we just be positive for once and believe that there are really great black girls out there who are 24 years old, don't have kids and never had an abortion; Or feel safe when around black men, and black men stop harassing us and protect us and lets believe that there are black people too who worked hard and never went to a sangoma to own a business, we too are capable of greatness.

Nevertheless, its still cloudy in the black mind. I have the most close minded room mates. All three all cooped up in some 'fear'tale about black men and their belief that all men are the same and should be used for their money. For a while I actually cursed naive me, but when I heard one of my room mates mentioning how she feels like some Spur ribs and is calling "Big daddy" to provide. I laughed at first thinking 'Well my boyfriend calls me Candy as my pet name', only to be shocked when she said "oh Hell no big daddy is not my boyfriend he is just this married man and who gives me money", for what I started thinking but then shifted from the idea. Oh dear Lord I wished they were white. They don't teach us such things at home. Our parents don't teach us these things. Or rather I am not groomed to have such mental thought. Although I am not judging and I am not saying this is only done by black girls but bloody hell already, 'get up woman and for once buy your boyfriend dinner'. I don't understand why this is difficult. And the way men believe that as long as they get some nookie after they have paid they really don't care how much you take from them is appalling But like I said maybe I am naive or judgmental. But how does one live like this? What about love? Or the married mans family? Self respect and dignity? TJo!

Anyway, I come from the hood hey and I sometimes like how real things are. You see people struggling for sure. But then what annoys the hell out of me is that "i have been bewitched" excuse. I am not denying that it happens. Oh its real. Not in just rural areas. Plus with envy its more dangerous. However, you can't always say you are being bewitched every time something goes wrong in your life. Some times you need to accept that you made wrong choices or just that you really having a bad day. It's even more strange when after the bad day or after resolution you never say "I was not being bewitched". 

I am not mocking black people. I am black. Though we really need to change our mentality. We need to know more so we can be knowledgeable about life. We need to explore more to want more. We need to be taught not only how to dream but to believe also. It is frightening sometimes. It is not our culture to be so negative. So today instead of Facebook or Twitter or BBm or whatever, pick up a book and learn something new it will make you mindful. And motivate younger ones to read, so we can have beautiful black minded future.