Men on PMS
Often as human beings we spend our lives curled up into the things that make us unhappy, questioning our destiny and failing to accept what we have and forever blaming God for giving bad people the best things in life. From since an early age our parents teach us to work hard at things and they tell us that nothing ever comes easy, and as we grow older we understand why we were given such priceless advice. Every single aspect of our life has its obstacle, from fitting in at high school, to finding your way in varsity, to even working, but even the things such as friendship, motherhood and most importantly to other people, love, it doesn't come easy and when you find it working hard at it is as important as breathing.
Love is not easy; whether you are a woman or a man it is not easy. Men like claiming that they never fall in love, but men have emotions to just not as visible as women, so they do love. I have decided to put this belief on paper, not to expose of any men secrets but to give other ladies a chance to understand their man and try to stop them from jumping into one disaster into another. I have also realised that women are now beginning to give up on love and they are starting to get in a relationship with their hearts locked and their minds alert. They are doing this because they feel like they are being treated like fools, and why should they be with someone who is not able to express himself as much as she does. Nevertheless we have to admit that men cannot express themselves and another truth is, they always admit it, however, women never listen and in turn you get into another relationship hoping to find better, but you left better five times already.
My aim with this belief is not to give you instructions on how to change your man, instead it is to learn to accept him the way he is. I have had a lot of women come up to me and ask me, how is it that you are happy with your boyfriend, what are you doing to him and all the questions about what I am doing. I am not doing anything to him. Why am I suppose to do anything to him, the last time I checked when we met, I fell in love with him because of who he is, himself. The things he said, the questions he asked, the way he asked them and how he made me feel special. My man has never changed since the day I met him, and I nearly lost him because I wanted him to carry both of us in the relationship, and always be the one to make both of us happy, but that’s not how it works in a relationship. Men also want to be happy, they also want to feel special, they want to be loved, be your night and shining armour, and I know what you are saying, “ag, I do that, I make him feel like that”, of course you do, I did to, through the countless messages reminding him of how much I love him, I called him, I even wrote about him on facebook. However, that is not the only way, as much as men and everybody else believes that men are not in the relationship for commitment, they are, and the truth is they do it in a pretty odd way, a way you won’t even understand.
As you read this, I would like you to look at your men and take note of the things that he says and practice them. What do I mean? Simple! Men are very straight forward beings. What I have learned about them is that, unlike women they say what they mean. What is this thing that some women do? They always analyse what their man say. Like for example I had a very good friend of mine come up to me, mad as hell that day, and she said she was so fed up with her boyfriend because he is always making excuses about the calls he does not make or he does not come to see her enough and then she lashed out and said he is cheating and she is going to dump him, and then she started crying and sent him messages about how he is no good boyfriend, making stupid accusations and assumptions and all I did was stare and say “WOW”. Yes! Wow! I wonder you know, do men feel more powerful after this whole outrage like “Yeah, I have power over this girl, I am the man” because it seems that way. As after the whole I hate you and you are a cheater, women still go back, why? The problem is not the calls, or the fights, the problem is that some women make their boyfriends their whole world. Now girlfriends that is not the way.
You need to give that guy something to compete with, even the simplest things can get him wondering what you are doing, the very same way you get curious and wonder when he says “he is tired, or not in the mood, or he is going to see his friends, or his phone was on silent”. Get some distractions you know, get hobbies like reading or site seeing; get him out of your mind, but not really out of your mind. When he sends I love you and I miss you messages, do what he does, don’t respond until the next morning. However, the trick in this is that you should not do it every day, I mean take this scenario, every woman goes through this with their man. For a couple of days he is so amazing, like giving you flowers amazing, kissing you, touching you everything you would want him to do every day, but unfortunately there comes this day where he is like BANG!!!! Don’t touch me, I want to be alone and you crowding my space, he does not say it, but he shows signs, sort of like you on your periods, like a man on PMS. However, men don’t get periods or do they? LOL. Of course not, but men get moods, because they are humans first and than men. So they to want some space, some alone time you know, to enjoy all the love that was shared, everything should go in process and you should allow him to so that it all means a lot, not just some random thing.
I could spend hours and hours explaining to you how some men have good intentions, but I do not have the time, and men are different plus on that note we as women, we are different and we do not go through the same situations. It hurts me when I hear of how some women are being physically or emotionally abused and they are crying out to the world asking people to help them, but we never can because some people mistake hurt and pain for love, and when that happens all we can do is hope that soon they will see the light. And for my other lady friends, the advice I can give you especially with infidelity at its peak, TELL HIM TO PUT ON A GLOVE, for both your sakes because the rotten egg might be on either side.
Love is not easy; whether you are a woman or a man it is not easy. Men like claiming that they never fall in love, but men have emotions to just not as visible as women, so they do love. I have decided to put this belief on paper, not to expose of any men secrets but to give other ladies a chance to understand their man and try to stop them from jumping into one disaster into another. I have also realised that women are now beginning to give up on love and they are starting to get in a relationship with their hearts locked and their minds alert. They are doing this because they feel like they are being treated like fools, and why should they be with someone who is not able to express himself as much as she does. Nevertheless we have to admit that men cannot express themselves and another truth is, they always admit it, however, women never listen and in turn you get into another relationship hoping to find better, but you left better five times already.
My aim with this belief is not to give you instructions on how to change your man, instead it is to learn to accept him the way he is. I have had a lot of women come up to me and ask me, how is it that you are happy with your boyfriend, what are you doing to him and all the questions about what I am doing. I am not doing anything to him. Why am I suppose to do anything to him, the last time I checked when we met, I fell in love with him because of who he is, himself. The things he said, the questions he asked, the way he asked them and how he made me feel special. My man has never changed since the day I met him, and I nearly lost him because I wanted him to carry both of us in the relationship, and always be the one to make both of us happy, but that’s not how it works in a relationship. Men also want to be happy, they also want to feel special, they want to be loved, be your night and shining armour, and I know what you are saying, “ag, I do that, I make him feel like that”, of course you do, I did to, through the countless messages reminding him of how much I love him, I called him, I even wrote about him on facebook. However, that is not the only way, as much as men and everybody else believes that men are not in the relationship for commitment, they are, and the truth is they do it in a pretty odd way, a way you won’t even understand.
As you read this, I would like you to look at your men and take note of the things that he says and practice them. What do I mean? Simple! Men are very straight forward beings. What I have learned about them is that, unlike women they say what they mean. What is this thing that some women do? They always analyse what their man say. Like for example I had a very good friend of mine come up to me, mad as hell that day, and she said she was so fed up with her boyfriend because he is always making excuses about the calls he does not make or he does not come to see her enough and then she lashed out and said he is cheating and she is going to dump him, and then she started crying and sent him messages about how he is no good boyfriend, making stupid accusations and assumptions and all I did was stare and say “WOW”. Yes! Wow! I wonder you know, do men feel more powerful after this whole outrage like “Yeah, I have power over this girl, I am the man” because it seems that way. As after the whole I hate you and you are a cheater, women still go back, why? The problem is not the calls, or the fights, the problem is that some women make their boyfriends their whole world. Now girlfriends that is not the way.
You need to give that guy something to compete with, even the simplest things can get him wondering what you are doing, the very same way you get curious and wonder when he says “he is tired, or not in the mood, or he is going to see his friends, or his phone was on silent”. Get some distractions you know, get hobbies like reading or site seeing; get him out of your mind, but not really out of your mind. When he sends I love you and I miss you messages, do what he does, don’t respond until the next morning. However, the trick in this is that you should not do it every day, I mean take this scenario, every woman goes through this with their man. For a couple of days he is so amazing, like giving you flowers amazing, kissing you, touching you everything you would want him to do every day, but unfortunately there comes this day where he is like BANG!!!! Don’t touch me, I want to be alone and you crowding my space, he does not say it, but he shows signs, sort of like you on your periods, like a man on PMS. However, men don’t get periods or do they? LOL. Of course not, but men get moods, because they are humans first and than men. So they to want some space, some alone time you know, to enjoy all the love that was shared, everything should go in process and you should allow him to so that it all means a lot, not just some random thing.
I could spend hours and hours explaining to you how some men have good intentions, but I do not have the time, and men are different plus on that note we as women, we are different and we do not go through the same situations. It hurts me when I hear of how some women are being physically or emotionally abused and they are crying out to the world asking people to help them, but we never can because some people mistake hurt and pain for love, and when that happens all we can do is hope that soon they will see the light. And for my other lady friends, the advice I can give you especially with infidelity at its peak, TELL HIM TO PUT ON A GLOVE, for both your sakes because the rotten egg might be on either side.
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